So close, yet so far

Boy am I annoyed. Or perhaps frustrated. Exhausted? Sick of trying? All of the above. I now understand what people mean when they say long distance relationships are hard. Only I am just trying to keep up a friendship. Two actually. Here is story number one:
My friend moved to Colorado. That was that. At first, my friend (who lives in Kingman) agreed that we really needed to be there for her when she first moved but after that we would probably slowly let go. That worked out fine for my friend, the two of them barely speak anymore. Me? Not so much. I'm still friends with her. Practically everyday is a struggle though. Whenever I call, I automatically have to endure at least fifteen minutes of her talking about her "Colorado friends" and what she and her "Colorado Best Friend" did and all the things that make her happy she lives in Colorado. When she is done, you would expect that next would come my turn to tell my stories, but no. Talking about where I live is completely against the rules. That makes her too homesick. That makes her sad, and mad at me for bringing it up. So then I get angry, because why should I have to listen to her go on? So I'm still friends with her, but sometimes, I wish I wasn't. I think it would be easier not to go through the constant fighting and making up. But then, I know I would miss her if I let go. Time for story number two.
My best friend and I have been friends for two years, but on multiple occasions I have felt that she wasn't really the best friend to have. Not in a "you do drugs I probably shouldn't hang around you" way, but more in a "why can't you be more loyal and there for me" way. Problem is, when I get mad at her, she normally doesn't even know it. I can't talk to her about it because she just doesn't get it. She never understands why I would be mad, and always has some story to back herself up. Whether her stories are the truth or not, I know I will never know. And we will go days and days without talking. I will assume she was busy and that is why she didn't make any effort to contact me when I tried hard to get ahold of her. (that is impossible now however being as her phone is cut off and her cell phone is lost). But then I hear about all the things she did with people who are barely even her friends. And I wonder, why couldn't she have called me? Am I being obsessive? I don't really think so. Were supposed to be best friends.
So sometimes I just realize that it is almost harder to stay friends with the person who lives in the same town as me than it is to stay close to the friend who lives in Colorado. I mean, she is so close, but I feel as though she is drifting away from ME. And my Colorado girl, she is so far away, but I know that if I need her she is only a phone call away and would always understand me and listen to me. Even if she was mad, she would forget about it and be there for me. I just don't know if I can count on that in my in town friend.